Melanie Bray, a 33-year-old mom of five, died tragically after a breast cancer diagnosis came too late — despite telling doctors, for years, that something was wrong.
At 27, six years before her death, Bray discovered a lump in her breast. The UK mom visited a local hospital, twice, to get checked for abnormalities. Both times, specialists allegedly disregarded the lump, claiming that at her young age, and with no family history, it could not be cancer. They summed the lump up to a symptom of breastfeeding all five of her kids and sent her home.
Bray couldn’t put the lumps from her mind — especially when she discovered another one on the other side of her breast in 2013. That year confirmed what Bray feared most: She had cancer all along and now there was nothing doctors could do. “She was diagnosed with HER2-positive breast cancer,” her mother, Janet Willoughby, told the Daily Mail. “And we knew from then it was terminal. The type of cancer she had was not a hereditary one, so having no family history of breast cancer had nothing to do with it.”
Barely thirty and facing the end of her life — with five beloved children under her care — Bray never complained. “She was amazing and just accepted her situation. She was so strong for her children,” explained her mother. “I think the whole way through I only saw her cry three times.”
Instead of fading away, or spending her last few years bitter, Bray launched a campaign encouraging patients to advocate for themselves when a diagnosis feels wrong. In addition, her mother claimed that she raised nearly $20,000 for charity while battling her illness.
Bray passed away on March 21, 2017, leaving her children to her mother. Her death, however painful, has given her family a sense of purpose — Willoughby and her grandchildren, Elise, 9, Harley, 11, Caitlin 14, Chloe 14, and Shona, 18, are dedicated to Bray’s mission. “Melanie knew, she knew something wasn’t right in herself, but they didn’t listen,” explained Willoughby. “Don’t ignore it. If you are not happy with your diagnosis then keep going back, and back and back. Keep pushing the doctors for another answer.”
A spokesperson for the Royal Cornwall Hospital, where Bray visited first in 2010 and again in 2013, recently released a statement, expressing their condolences: “Melanie was seen in the Mermaid Center in May and June 2010 and then again in 2013 when her diagnosis was made. Sadly early stage disease will not always be apparent, despite appropriate diagnostic tests, and in the case of more aggressive cancers they can develop rapidly over a very short period of time.”